Denise

"I had the greatest Grandpa
Not a stuffy, distant one
His hair reflected shades of grey
But his spirit was bright and young
I always knew he loved me
For his smile was easily found
Mirrored in his twinkling eyes
Whenever I was around
“I will always love and miss you Granda”
Your loving granddaughter Kara xxx.
“I love Granda Barr”.
“You were the best Granda in the world”.
“I will never forget you Granda”.
Your loving grandson Ciaran xxx.
THE BEST.
There’s not that much I can say because he was always working for the people that needed help.
He also was a family man helping round the house.
I know that I loved him very much and that I do miss him a lot!
Your Loving Grandson Seán xxx
"Well what can I say about our local legend. Apart from the fact that Ivan Barr is grandad and this is always the first thing I say when people ask me who I am, and I always feel so proud when I say it. Everyone you talk to in this town always has a story of how Granda has helped them or someone in their family. Well Granda has helped me so much too as he was always the first one I'd go to for help or advice. I just wish I could thank him again for everything he has done for me. But most of all thank him for all the fond memories I have of him, but all I can do for now is make sure I remember him everyday and make sure that my daughter Cora grows up knowing how wonderful her great grandfather was, That he was truly a legend not just for his town but for his family too.
Lots of Love"
Rasheda & Cora.
A Loving Grandfather.
"Everyone has their personal opinion of what makes the prefect Granfather, well my Grandfather Ivan Barr really did live up to the role of just that - The Prefect Grandfather.
I have my memories from when i was a kiddie right up to the day I lost my dear Granda. These memories will stay close to my heart forever.
He was always there for the whole family, he was our pillar. No matter how large or small of a worry or problem i had i cud always turn to Granda for some wise advice. Granda was there for everyone not just his family but the whole of Strabane.
I hope his memory will live on for years and years to come. i know i will b telling my Great Gran-Children of my memories of MY GRANDAD - Ivan Barr.
I will Miss u everyday of my Life & am so proud of you.
Love you Granda."
Karlee xxx
Who is Ivan Barr?
I use the phrase 'who is' rather than 'who was' because dad is as much a guiding light today as he has been throughout our lives. Someone who has always seen the best in others, someone who has promoted family values and forgiveness, his diplomacy at times would test your personal abilities but he always believed that nothing was ever that bad that it should be left to fester and this was as much an importance in family as out. These senses of family unite most likely stem from his own personal loss at a very young age.
Dad unfortunately lost his father Charles to illness at a very young age yet despite these painful and trying times he showed courage and responsibility and confidently weighed in behind his mother Finwell with strength and support and helped guide his brothers and sisters through impoverished times and into adulthood.
It was this social conscience that seen our father although a mere teenager throw himself into the not so welcomed limelight of local issues in aid of the unfortunate and downtrodden people of his hometown.
Taking active part in protests against a bigoted and sectarian regime whose biased approach with regard to housing allocation, equality and employment only served to burden an already impoverished community. Then to add insult to injury came the relentless unemployment and sickness tribunals by individuals who cared little or less for people’s personal circumstances.
It was during one such protest that dad suffered life threatening injuries when one such sectarian bigot crashed through a peaceful white line protest in Bridge Street, Strabane dragging dad beneath his car for some 700 yards, ironically this bigot was to become his sparring partner within the Council Chamber some years later.
The murder of Dad’s beloved sister Denise and the tragic death of our beloved sister Karen saw dad take a temporary back seat from political life, but this changed following the brutal murders of Irish Republican Volunteers Charlie Breslin, Michael and David Devine on 23rd February 1985.
As dad stated:
"It was a terrible time. It was the peak for hostility. The most notable factor was that it was no longer the younger generation, or even Republicans that felt alienated.
"I felt that the overwhelming majority of the community felt the same. One couldn't help but take notice of the thousands of people that turned out for the funerals.
They were angry at what had happened and the one question was! Why didn't they just arrest the three?
"My impression at that time was that the entire Nationalist community had been alienated."
Well dad returned and took up that mantle in the hope of change, no longer would his community be alienated and with party colleagues Charlie McHugh and Tommy McNamee at his side the trio entered what can only be described as the lion’s den. Here they faced the daily tirade of abuse and hostility from the unionist controlled chamber. But the trio stood firm and resolute and it took the might of the Unionist controlled RUC to regularly remove the determined three.
Well how things were to change, no more unionist domination but a council for the people, formed of the people. But yet again there was no such notion within dad’s mind to do onto them as they had done onto us. It was time to end the ‘them and us attitude’ of yester year and work for the common good of all.
He was a independent thinker, not a yes man or someone to vote with the flow for a peaceful life and this brought about the occasional bout of criticism from party and council colleagues alike but not to be deterred from his undertaking of acting in the best interest of all off the community alike he soldiered on.
It was this objective of fair and equal representation that seen dad gain respect from friend and foe alike as was apparent during his illness, wake and funeral. The tributes and accolades afforded to him since his untimely passing speak volumes.
Our father, an independent thinker, summed it up in four words doodled in his Council diary,
Trust, Openness, Honesty and mutual respect.
"Dad a shining example to all of us on how we should be ready at all times to help each other".
Your loving Son Ivan Jnr.
Ivan
Our father gone at an early age, our future had no plan,
You guided us through those youthful waters, into the sea of man.
You were always there in times of need with your advice on word and deed,
If I encountered something I could not comprehend, you were my brother, my father, my friend.
Your social conscience at an early age shaped your life when your country raged,
You suffered loss of liberty, humiliation and pain,
but your concern was all for others there was no personal gain.
Honesty, loyalty, integrity, the virtues you employ If I had half your qualities then I would be some boy.
Synonymous with the town of Strabane Admired and respected by every man,
The path to your door was a well beaten track; on no-one did you turn your back.
You served your people nothing was a bother and I’m so proud you were my brother.
You lived to end injustice, wherever it could be found.
A worker for the common man you wore no cape or crown.
You lived your life with integrity, your principles never comprised,
And still you gained a certain respect Ivan Barr, no way could have been despised.
Now your time has come to leave us and you die just as you lived.
Worried about our welfare But no more could you give.
I hope you didn’t suffer I pray your pain was zero,
but one thing’s certain for as long As I live, you will always be my HERO!
Composed By Raymond Barr in dedication to his loving brother Ivan 10/05/08
Ivan Barr - 'A true working class hero'
A Family’s heartfelt tribute to their special brother.
"People are generally kind and the people of Strabane have often shown themselves to be kinder than most.
So it was no surprise to us that from the start of Ivan's illness and upon his death we were often told by many people of the town of the high esteem they held him in, of how kind and gentle and compassionate a person he was. How he had helped so many people over so many years.
Whilst the kind words were very welcome and appreciated no one needed to tell us of the special person Ivan had been, because Ivan Barr was our brother.
It is often spoken of the private and public faces of the politician. Ivan had only one face to display. He was the same gentle, kind and compassionate man to everyone he met as he was at home.
It was a standing joke among us of how difficult it was for us, his family, to see Ivan. When you went into Ivan's he was invariably in the kitchen, he liked his grub and was a dab hand with the frying pan.
We will always picture him there with the pan in hand, the TV and at least two radios tuned into the news, the phone ringing and often someone at the door and Ivan unperturbed telling a humorous yarn with that wee quiet chuckle he had. His phone and door quite literally never stopped, always someone with a problem and to Ivan no problem was too small or too large. Always he would deal with those problems with the compassion and commitment he believed the working people deserved.
He had a love of and commitment to the ordinary man that was unlimited.
He always had a great sense of humour and could in the most trying of situations see the funny and ironic side of life.
Like the irony in the day back at the start of the Civil Rights when Walter Elliot stopped Ivan and told him he would never work in Strabane again; Walter wasn't threatening Ivan, he was advising him in a friendly manner. Well as Ivan often told with his wee chuckle, Walter nearly got it right, he was never employed in Strabane again but work, he got plenty of.
'Unpaid social worker'
I don't believe there can be many, if indeed any, who have put in the hours that he put in over this last forty years. For a large part of this time he was an unpaid social worker on behalf of the working people of Strabane.
He once nearly got a paid job; one day during the Troubles he got a letter, he was to start in HMS Sea Eagle on the following Monday. Unfortunately a good story was ruined when not unexpectedly the next morning he got the apology but no, he wasn't getting the 'start' after all.
Like all families we have so many fond and happy and some very sad memories of our loved ones who have passed on. Ivan was so important to our family, he was our father figure, out strength, the one who was always there for us when we needed him, we never needed him more than we need him now to help us deal with our loss. It was an indication of the man he was to become that when our father died very young leaving a young family, Ivan - barely sixteen - tried to take on the responsibility of the father role in the family.
He took this responsibility so seriously he made himself ill. Going to work in England he religiously sent our mother home money every week to help run the home. Writing to us all regularly, he was always encouraging us to do what was right.
From a young age Ivan was interested in Republican politics, but it was on going to England as a young man that he developed what was to become his unfaltering belief for the next fifty years, a love of the working people. And that is what it was, a love not simply politics, because Ivan's Socialism came from his heart.
Active from the very start of the Civil Rights' struggle he worked tirelessly for Civil Rights serving for a time as chairman of the Civil Rights' Association. Throughout the 1970s he held fast to his principles, suffering internment on 'the ship' and the social pressure when it wasn't popular to be 'a sticky'.
We remember fondly our pride when he won his first seat on the council, a just reward for his years of work on behalf of working people.
The years of struggle on the council to get others to accept the right of everyone to be treated equally, eventually winning the respect of those who would have been opposed to him. They came to recognise what we had always known that Ivan had never had a sectarian bone in his body.
'Steely determination'
An unusual man in that he combined a great gentleness and compassion with a steely determination to hold fast to his principles. He had had so much bad luck in his life yet rather than make him bitter his compassion seemed to grow.
The death of his beloved and so loyal mother, the murder of our beautifully innocent sister, Denise, his accident on the picket line, suffering severe burns, the tragic death of Judy's and his lovely little daughter Karen.
Any of these events would have been sufficient reason to give up the struggle, but not for Ivan, he returned to and worked as hard as ever for his beliefs. This commitment was true courage and to us he will always the the true working class hero.
Ivan was so proud of his roots, to be Irish and working class, a Strabane man from the 'foot of the town', or our mother's roots in the Ulster Scots' tradition of our community and to be a Barr, he never ceased to miss and he so loved the memory of his father.
As a family we have always considered ourselves to be blessed with love, when trouble came we were always there for each other, unconditionally, none more so than Ivan. We worry if we can maintain that, now that our rock has gone.
Never one to accept accolades let alone seek them, Ivan you may accept this from us, your brothers and sisters. If only our Dad had lived to see the way you lived your life he would have been very, very proud."
WILMA MCNALLY
CHARLIE BARR
THOMAS BARR
RAYMOND BARR
FINWELL McPEAKE